Book Review: Widowed by Joann Filomena

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A beautiful gift for those left behind

Having lost my mom in 2014 and supporting her in the last 4 years of her life after she was widowed, I really wish I had this as a reference to help support her. Thank you so much for the courage it took to write this book. This book is important to read, not only for widows but for all of us who are of the age when we are seeing our friends and family pass away. Two of my dear friends from college have both recently passed away; this book is a wonderful gift for them!

Get updates about my upcoming book this December 2016 (click here)

Give Birth A Chance: How to Prepare for an Empowered VBAC

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Ilia Blandina

My New Facebook Page Cover!!!

A beautiful, smiling pregnant woman on a rocky beach at sunrise. She is holding a blue silk veil that's flowing in the wind.

This photo says it all!!! Childbirth With Grace will help you have a peaceful pregnancy!

Join me on my weekly Live Hangout on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm EST US. We will learn so much from each other.

I’m so excited to be helping you every week on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm eastern USA. Just simply go to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV  and scroll down until you see me, Ilia Blandina and click the button that reads “Login – Instant Access”, you will have to confirm your email and in you go!

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here or call 305-771-5052 and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

Birth: Break The Fear Tension Pain Cycle!

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Birth:

Your goal is to have a graceful birth experience, but how do you get from point Ahh! to point Baby?!

  • Break the Fear Tension Pain cycle before it gets rolling!
  • Learn how to prepare and control your inner thoughts.
  • Get the tools to transform your emotional environment before things get hot & heavy.
  • Learn how to gently guide the people around you to best support you.
  • Fearful and nervous about being the birth coach! I might faint!

 

It’s wonderful, it’s magical, and it’s a unique experience. It’s also a stunningly emotional experience, and not just because of the hormonal spikes. Ask anyone who has witnessed a birth or have given birth and they will tell you how it changed their life. This show will give you the tools you need to have childbirth with grace!

I’m so excited to be helping you every week on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm eastern USA. Just simply go to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV  and scroll down until you see me, Ilia Blandina and click the button that reads “Login – Instant Access”, you will have to confirm your email and in you go!

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here or call 305-771-5052 and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

Parenting: What Do We Do Now!?

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Parenting:

“OMG! They are letting us take the baby home. He’s really going to live with us!” Those were my thoughts when I brought my first baby home! And I was a pediatric nurse back then; you would think the best trained person to be allowed to take a baby home! It was scary.

  • Will I be a good parent?
  • Will I drive safely home?
  • Will I be able to breastfeed? Is the baby really getting enough milk?
  • Yikes my body morphed again!
  • Maybe things didn’t go as planned and you are both left with feelings of frustration, sadness, inadequacy or even feel traumatized.
  • What about sex!

I’m so excited to be helping you every week on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm eastern USA. Just simply go to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV  and scroll down until you see me, Ilia Blandina and click the button that reads “Login – Instant Access”, you will have to confirm your email and in you go!

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here or call 305-771-5052 and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

Why Hire An EFT Coach?

If EFT is such an effective self help tool that I can learn to do all by myself, why would anyone go to a coach?  Why spend the money ?

EFT is an amazing and effective self help tool and it is possible to get extraordinary change with even the most basic knowledge and little or no understanding of the ‘science’ and thinking behind it. However, there are times when EFT doesn’t seem to work, you just get nowhere or you may have opened up a floodgate of negative emotions and lost memories. This is where the EFT coach comes in, when you are stuck or overwhelmed.

Primarily, the EFT coach’s role is to be a facilitator for healing work to take place, to hold a safe space for the client to explore areas that their subconscious mind may not allow them to access on their own. In doing so, as the coach, I help individuals or couples to grow and heal their relationships. I help women and couples prepare for childbirth by shedding away fear and anxiety regarding their pregnancy, birth and parenting.

My role is also to keep the client focused – to be a kind but firm guide to their process – to gently help the “masters of distraction” focus and resolve their issues in a supportive and comfortable environment – to keep the client not just on track, but moving forward. A good EFT coach will be the detective, use language skills to creatively assist the client to unearth their core issues and beliefs – to question them in ways they wouldn’t think of doing for themselves. I believe that the creative language and questioning skills of the coach are invaluable in allowing the process to flow smoothly.

It is human nature not to “go there” if “there” is too uncomfortable, either consciously or subconsciously. Some of us are masters at distraction – those times when cleaning, laundry, work, caring for your partner and/or children or just hiding away in the cocoon of internet surfing or watching TV suddenly become of utmost importance and just have to be done. Anything to avoid the issues we know at some level we need to be working with/looking at. I know – I am quite an expert on this myself! We have all been there and done that!

As human beings we are use to suppressing our negative thoughts and emotions. We master our skill at ignoring negative emotions and plowing our way through life telling ourselves and others that everything is OK. The most usual response to “How are you?” is “Fine.” How often is that the truth? EFT is all about being in your truth and helping you release the negative emotions and thoughts that kind you from your end goal of love, joy and fulfillment.

When dealing with negative things, people often ignore what is really bothering them, but at some point the subconscious mind will draw our attention to it in some other way, whether through physical aches and pains, depression, anxiety or other emotional states. We might displace or project our negative feelings onto others, and this hurts our relationships. At some point the subconscious defenses leak – something happens and we are forced to confront our reality. This is where the EFT coach comes in – to create a strategy for the client, a path for them to take, to clarify and simplify their work and to support and guide them with it as necessary. With EFT we have ways of carefully resolving and changing the overall symptoms.  And we can often do this for ourselves – but getting started can seem overwhelming, if we can figure out where to get started.

As an EFT coach I am an emotional detective. By using my training and communication skills to question the individual or couple in ways they wouldn’t think of doing for themselves. The creative language and questioning skills of the coach are invaluable in allowing the process to flow smoothly and to assist the client to unearth their core issues and beliefs. EFT is a fast track to cognitive shifts and insights. Acknowledging these changes to ourselves can be difficult. Often we won’t notice them ourselves and it will take our family, friends or colleagues to point them out. A skilled coach will be able to bring these shifts into conscious awareness as they happen.

“Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there” ~ unknown 

That is how I see my role, supporting people as they move along their track, being a clear channel for the work to happen – being aware when they head off track and pulling them gently back, looking for those patterns, helping you examine these patterns and gain new insights and perspectives.

Love & Light

Please contact me for a free 15 minute consultation to explore how EFT and MR tapping can help you.

How to be successful in Marriage or Long-term Relationships

A long term relationship as in marriage is very hard. I’ve been married for over 30 years and together for over 33 years. My overall thoughts about long term relationships are it takes the following ingredients to make it work out:

  • Commitment
  • Forgiveness
  • Love….unconditional
  • Communication skills…impeccable
  • Honesty….raw
  • Knowing when not to say anything
  • Meditation
  • Believe you were brought together for a greater purpose
  • Freedom……allow all expressions
  • All emotion is good….but do no harm
  • Mutual Respect….try…”no harm, no foul”
  • Partnership
  • Listening skills
  • Sex, sex and more sex….not necessarily with just your body….your mind has to be involved
  • Allow….all expressions of thought, ideas, philosophy
  • Don’t assume ownership
  • Keep your mind open
  • A quest for self improvement…..Always do inner work on yourself first
  • Let go of blame
  • Nothing is as it seems…..we live in our own illusion
  • “Check yourself before you wreck yourself”
  • See though the obvious….the reality is not necessarily what you see in front of you
  • Frustrations usually go deeper than the present event
  • Listen to the humor…..it’s usually the truth
  • Watch each other’s back without being judgmental
  • Compromise….two (or more) people with individual agenda’s need to meet in the middle
  • Make a decision…is it worth fighting for? (there’s no wrong answer here) Proceed from there.

Strangeness and Charm in Relationships

Enjoy “Strangeness and Charm” by Florence & the Machine

To me the song speaks about the energy that holds us together. We can’t see it but it’s what attracts us and binds us. It’s filled with a lot of scientific imagery.  Strange and charm are types of quarks, as well as down and up. Strange and charm quarks can only be created in high energy collisions. Her song is all about the chemistry of intense love and how just a touch sets off the chemical reaction. What a great feeling!

Read the lyrics while watching the video.

Contact me for a free 15 minute consultation regarding how EFT tapping can help you.

The best way to heal from a broken heart

Getting over a broken heart can be very draining. The best way to heal from a broken heart is to use EFT tapping to shake off the negative emotions regarding the loss of a relationship. When you realize the relationship you have is not what it seemed you can use the extraordinary benefits of EFT tapping to rebuild the love for each other or help you to move on.

Tapping on acupressure points of your upper body and face in a consistent pattern while thinking about painful past events releases negative emotions tied to the events. The result is a shift from a negative downward spiral of emotions to calmness and clarity of thought. EFT is a highly effective tool to heal you of the negative emotions embedded in your energy system as a result of years of limiting beliefs. Open your communication with your partner by using EFT tapping to remove negative emotions created by past events. It has been said that one hour of EFT with a skilled practitioner is equivalent to 100 hours of conventional talk therapy. I have personally seen how well this works in my own life.

“It’s hard to dance with the devil on your back, so shake it out” Florence and the machine. So contact me to help you learn the best way to heal from a broken heart by tapping those negative emotions away for good!

Contact me for a free 15 minute consult.

Love & Light,
Ilia