Book Review – PRIDE by Dr. Ronald Holt

Pride Ron HoltPRIDE: You Can’t Heal If You’re Hiding from Yourself

“No matter your sexual orientation or gender identity, you are worthy of unconditional love and acceptance.”

There are so many reasons that this is a book for our times. The quote from the book in the headline is by far the most important reason for this book to have been written and for ALL to read it. I am reminded of the verse Mark 12:31 “The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” The book reads like a suspense novel, yet the stories of struggle is NOT FICTION! The fact Ron tells us REAL stories of REAL people is horrifying and heartwarming at the same time. I could not put the book down. I know I have lived a sheltered life and by God’s Grace I have not been exposed to such indignities that are told in this book. I wish I had this information when I was younger, but it is never too late to learn how to love without question and truly accept the wonderful diversity life has to offer.

There so are many best things about this book and here is another one: It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation is, if you are trying to live life authentically, the first step is in healing yourself and healing can lonely start after each of us comes out from hiding from ourselves, exemplified beautifully in this book. By the way, I know that I have been living under a rock–Did you know that PRIDE = People Respecting Individuals, Diversity, & Equality? I did not, but now I do. (Crazy, where have I been?—oh yeah, delivering babies) This book can be a movie, this book can be a play, this book can be a seed for a multitude of things, but the one thing I ask is to not let this book be unread collecting nano-dust in your Kindle library.

Learn more about my book:

 Give Birth A Chance: How to Prepare for an Empowered VBAC

Visit my book store at Awaken Your Life Power Books

Ilia Blandina

Book Review: The Hustle-Free Business by Amy Birks

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I can sure use a Ninja to grow my business!

Amy Birks got me in the intro with “Your kids are growing up, making those microscopic changes moment by moment that you just can’t get back.” I so agree, we are all caught up in life, that before you know, it will pass us by in an instant if we are not careful. John Lennon said, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” Her RESULTS Rituals are easy to follow! Look out 2017, the year of 1 = New Beginnings, I am going to implement this plan! Her breakdown about the two types of resistance to growing your business completely resonated with me. I love how she hit the mark by addressing how it’s not just about following someone else’s formula to success, but it’s about the secret formula that is hidden within each individual for their own way of obtaining success and enjoying life at the same time. Genius.

Get updates about my upcoming book this December 2016 (click here)

Give Birth A Chance: How to Prepare for an Empowered VBAC

Visit my book store at Awaken Your Life Power Books

Ilia Blandina

 

Class #4 The Warrior Goddess Within

Childbirth With Grace

9/30/2015 The Warrior Goddess Within Pain Management Series Overview

Labor is one of the most physical and psychologically challenging events you will face as a woman.

You must be a warrior goddess and you must train like a warrior goddess.  I will show you how to practice using EFT during real labor pains.

YES, you will learn how to safely elicit pain and do REAL pain management. Have paper towels and a bowl of ice next to you!

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

 

Class #2 What is Tapping anyway? 9/16/2015

What is Tapping Anyway? www.iliablandina.com

Tapping helps you minimize your fears, stresses and concerns around your whole childbirth experience.
I’ll be demonstrating how you use this amazing tool, [which I used as a mid-wife], right on the show.

  • I’ll share a bit of history behind ‘Tapping’
  • I’ll explain what the ‘Points’ are and where they are located
  • After today’s show you’ll have a great ‘go to’ in the moment stress reducer in your own tool box
  • Be sure to join us on www.ChildbirthWithGrace.tv to receive your free ‘tapping chart’

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

Class #1 Why Birth Plans Don’t Work 9/9/2015

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To plan or not to plan. That is the question. If we plan our birth can that predispose it to not going as planned? Tune in and learn why planning your dream birth experience may not be the best use of your time and energy.

I’m so excited to be helping you every week on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm eastern USA. Just simply go to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV  and scroll down until you see me, Ilia Blandina and click the button that reads “Login – Instant Access”, you will have to confirm your email and in you go!

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here or call 305-771-5052 and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

Birth: Break The Fear Tension Pain Cycle!

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Birth:

Your goal is to have a graceful birth experience, but how do you get from point Ahh! to point Baby?!

  • Break the Fear Tension Pain cycle before it gets rolling!
  • Learn how to prepare and control your inner thoughts.
  • Get the tools to transform your emotional environment before things get hot & heavy.
  • Learn how to gently guide the people around you to best support you.
  • Fearful and nervous about being the birth coach! I might faint!

 

It’s wonderful, it’s magical, and it’s a unique experience. It’s also a stunningly emotional experience, and not just because of the hormonal spikes. Ask anyone who has witnessed a birth or have given birth and they will tell you how it changed their life. This show will give you the tools you need to have childbirth with grace!

I’m so excited to be helping you every week on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm eastern USA. Just simply go to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV  and scroll down until you see me, Ilia Blandina and click the button that reads “Login – Instant Access”, you will have to confirm your email and in you go!

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here or call 305-771-5052 and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

Childbirth With Grace Live Hangout

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“Hello welcome to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV . I am your host Ilia Blandina. My intention is to Awaken Your Life Power by helping you to tap into your personal birth journey! ”

I’m so excited to be helping you every week on Wednesdays at 1:30 pm eastern USA. Just simply go to ChildbirthWithGrace.TV  and scroll down until you see me, Ilia Blandina and click the button that reads “Login – Instant Access”, you will have to confirm your email and in you go!

Childbirth With Grace will be covering all phases of birth:
• From pre-pregnancy concerns you might have.
• To thinking, “Do I want to get pregnant?”
• “Do I really want to have a baby?”
• To the fears and uncertainty of being pregnant.
• What will giving birth be like?
• How to cope with the aches and pains of my body changing.
• Will my baby be healthy?
• And am I going to be a good parent?

We will be covering all the above and much more. I’m so glad you are here.

Our show will be interactive. Get your notebook and pen out, as I will be giving you tips on how to balance your emotions and neutralize your fears. I will be helping you to shift your negative emotions concerning pregnancy, birth and parenting by showing you how you can use EFT tapping and Matrix Reimprinting.

I’ve been a Registered Nurse (RN) since 1985 and a Certified Nurse Midwife (CNM), Advanced Registered Nurse Practitioner (ARNP) since 1994. During my career I have attended over 5000 births including 4 of my own. Now I am bringing all this knowledge to you as an EFT and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner. I am grateful that you will be watching and participating in the show.

Be certain to add our weekly show to your calendar.

Wednesdays at 1:30 pm Eastern USA.

To schedule a private Complimentary Chat simply click here or call 305-771-5052 and I will personally be contacting you as quickly as possible.

“Until next time keep tapping and let the loving tree of your celestial family be your guide to Awaken Your Life Power. Stay present in the moment, enjoy life and be well!”

Ilia Blandina

EFT and Induction of Labor

Induction of labor is the process of introducing different hormones into the mother’s body in order to start regular uterine contractions that will help the cervix dilate to 10 cm at which point she can start pushing.

In this particular case my client needed to be induced due to medical reasons. It was her first baby and after the first round on medication overnight her cervix had remained unchanged. It was 1 cm dilated, 30% effaced (its length, we want to get to 100%) and 2 cm above the bones of the internal pelvis.

I was visiting with her during daily rounds and explained that in her case she should expect the induction process would take 2 to 3 days depending on her body’s and baby’s response to the contractions. At the time she was having mild regular contractions that she described as feeling like “period cramps”. Her husband was with her being very supportive.

I advised her to keep herself occupied by watching funny and lighthearted movies and to avoid scary or action adventure movies. I explained that by watching scary movies it might artificially elevate her stress hormones which would counteract our trying to convince her body that it is time to be in labor. Chemically her body will think that she is not in a safe environment to give birth.

By the same token, when watching funny movies while being in labor or labor induction, your body is relaxed and many studies have shown that laughter releases endorphins from the brain. The endorphins are chemicals released by the brain that are natural morphine-like compounds that raise the pain threshold and thereby produce pain relief and a feeling of well-being.

After listening to my advice she asked me if there was a possibility that by producing her own stress she was causing the induction process to not progress. I answered that it is possible and asked her if she was feeling stressed about being induced. She said yes. I then asked what the primary emotion she was feeling. She told me that she had anxiety and had not been able to sleep during the previous night because she was very nervous about the induction. She also said she had been crying this morning because she was tired of lying in bed and when she tried to adjust the bed it had broken. Since then the bed had been fixed and has been able to adjust it as needed for comfort.

At this point I decided to introduce EFT to her as a way of coping with her fear and anxiety about labor. She had never heard of EFT before, but after a brief explanation was open to trying it.

I asked her to rate her anxiety at the present time about her labor induction on a scale of 0 to 10 Subjective Units of Distress (SUDS). She reported it was a 6. I explained to her about how EFT would help release her anxiety about being induced. I asked her if she wanted to try it and she agreed. We then went through the following tapping sequence.

Set up statement: Even though I feel all this anxiety about having my labor being induced, I completely love and accept myself. (This was repeated 3 times). We then proceeded to tap on all the points stating the reminder phrases. Her SUDS level reduced to 4 and she stated that she was now afraid that the induction would not work and was fearful about the pain she would be feeling.

We did another round of tapping with the set up statement of: Even though I am afraid of being induced and that it may not work, I completely love and accept myself; Even though I am afraid of the pain of labor, I completely love and accept myself; Even though I am afraid of the coming pain and that the induction may not work, I completely love and accept myself. We proceeded to tap on all the points stating the reminder phrases. Her SUDS level dropped to 1-2 and she reported being just a little anxious instead of being fearful.

We did a final round of tapping with the set up statement of: Even though I have this remaining anxiety about having my labor being induced, I completely love and accept myself. This was repeated 3 times and then we tapped on all the points stating the reminder phrases. She reported feeling quite relaxed and started laughing about having been anxious.

She was very thankful to learn the technique and I referred her to my website www.ChildBirthWithGrace.com for more information. I told both her and her husband that if she becomes so negatively charged that she is crying to start tapping on all the points right away and that there was no need to worry about what to say due to her being completely tuned in because she is so upset. I wished them well and invited them to contact me for any further explanation.

EFT is such a great tool and easily used during stressful situations. At the start she was anxious and fearful about starting her labor. Then after using EFT for just 10 minutes she became happy and confident about starting labor. This reminds me of the quote “Life is a journey, not a destination.” By Ralph Waldo Emerson and with EFT the journey can be a whole lot gentler!

 

 

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