EFT is an amazing and effective self help tool and it is possible to get extraordinary change with even the most basic knowledge and little or no understanding of the ‘science’ and thinking behind it. However, there are times when EFT doesn’t seem to work, you just get nowhere or you may have opened up a floodgate of negative emotions and lost memories. This is where the EFT coach comes in, when you are stuck or overwhelmed.
Primarily, the EFT coach’s role is to be a facilitator for healing work to take place, to hold a safe space for the client to explore areas that their subconscious mind may not allow them to access on their own. In doing so, as the coach, I help individuals or couples to grow and heal their relationships. I help women and couples prepare for childbirth by shedding away fear and anxiety regarding their pregnancy, birth and parenting.
My role is also to keep the client focused – to be a kind but firm guide to their process – to gently help the “masters of distraction” focus and resolve their issues in a supportive and comfortable environment – to keep the client not just on track, but moving forward. A good EFT coach will be the detective, use language skills to creatively assist the client to unearth their core issues and beliefs – to question them in ways they wouldn’t think of doing for themselves. I believe that the creative language and questioning skills of the coach are invaluable in allowing the process to flow smoothly.
It is human nature not to “go there” if “there” is too uncomfortable, either consciously or subconsciously. Some of us are masters at distraction – those times when cleaning, laundry, work, caring for your partner and/or children or just hiding away in the cocoon of internet surfing or watching TV suddenly become of utmost importance and just have to be done. Anything to avoid the issues we know at some level we need to be working with/looking at. I know – I am quite an expert on this myself! We have all been there and done that!
As human beings we are use to suppressing our negative thoughts and emotions. We master our skill at ignoring negative emotions and plowing our way through life telling ourselves and others that everything is OK. The most usual response to “How are you?” is “Fine.” How often is that the truth? EFT is all about being in your truth and helping you release the negative emotions and thoughts that kind you from your end goal of love, joy and fulfillment.
When dealing with negative things, people often ignore what is really bothering them, but at some point the subconscious mind will draw our attention to it in some other way, whether through physical aches and pains, depression, anxiety or other emotional states. We might displace or project our negative feelings onto others, and this hurts our relationships. At some point the subconscious defenses leak – something happens and we are forced to confront our reality. This is where the EFT coach comes in – to create a strategy for the client, a path for them to take, to clarify and simplify their work and to support and guide them with it as necessary. With EFT we have ways of carefully resolving and changing the overall symptoms. And we can often do this for ourselves – but getting started can seem overwhelming, if we can figure out where to get started.
As an EFT coach I am an emotional detective. By using my training and communication skills to question the individual or couple in ways they wouldn’t think of doing for themselves. The creative language and questioning skills of the coach are invaluable in allowing the process to flow smoothly and to assist the client to unearth their core issues and beliefs. EFT is a fast track to cognitive shifts and insights. Acknowledging these changes to ourselves can be difficult. Often we won’t notice them ourselves and it will take our family, friends or colleagues to point them out. A skilled coach will be able to bring these shifts into conscious awareness as they happen.
“Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there” ~ unknown
That is how I see my role, supporting people as they move along their track, being a clear channel for the work to happen – being aware when they head off track and pulling them gently back, looking for those patterns, helping you examine these patterns and gain new insights and perspectives.
Love & Light
Please contact me for a free 15 minute consultation to explore how EFT and MR tapping can help you.